I know my affair will end up soon or may be on NewYear time...

But I moved on with my dating website, I have been meeting with a guy who works in my ex-husbands office.

His wife got to know some how that we have been into each other for quite long and our relation was spotted so she made my bf called me and she was listening from other extension when my bf said that its all over between us. But 2hours back i got a call from bf that something similar to this will happen. So i was relaxed and calm that nothing will go wrong.

When he was done, he called me twice telling me that is not over.lol. He said its his marriage that is soon be over. He even told me that he is sorting things out and leaving her soon. It was new years eve and i decided to quit with my husband and i dint new that my bf was playing on both wife and me. He was actually staying with her and was trying to work on both of us.

How easily he lied both of us and made me go with some very big and wrong decision. Now I have no feelings for my bf and i dont want to see his face too.

I am thing that I should contact my bfs wife (probably now ex-bf), i should tell his wife that this guy is cheating on her and me too. He swore on the phone that its over but still he is meeting up with me and he swore me that he will leave you but still he is working his marriage out too.

I am not willing to hurt his wife, I know how it feels and also I even don't know her. I feel that I am the only one who knows the truth while she knows just a bit part of it. I can hand her all the gifts and letters and postcards that how long we have been into affair.

Now I am looking for suggestions what should be the end result, how should I finish this thing up! I will appreciate your concerns. I am going sick day by day! Need serious help.

If I were the wife, I wouldn't want to know about how stupid he made me. But I'd have dumped him then and there and let him stay with the OW.

I think it is worse for the wife to know everything that has happened. You made a smart move to get rid of him. I'd just let it be.

If I didn't know the OW as well as I do already, I don't know that I'd want to hear more from the OW about how my husband betrayed me, how long he'd been cheating, where they'd had their trysts. I don't think that this would help me exorcise the OW from my mind. In fact, it might make me dwell on her more.

But I feel guilty that for so long I did not came to know that this guy was cheating on us both. I feel ashamed and I want to tell her wife know all about him. At least she can plan a better future for herself.

I know what you mean. I get so upset still and I just want to scream out about how much this infidelity hurt me!